In no form of gender-based violence other than prostitution do we weigh the veracity of the victimization of a person on whether or not there is a third party. This third party litmus test has traditionally been used to determine my right to services, governmental funding, and even to determine if I deserve justice. Due […]
La Madre Tonantsin. Copyright © Collette Crutcher, 1992. Mural at Instituto Pro Musica de California, 7 X 32 feet, 16th Street at Sanchez, San Francisco.
Letter to sex buyers from a Danish survivor of prostitution
Sex work is a relentless game of pandering to male narcissism. As a sex worker, it is literally your job to make a man feel special, superior, and satisfied as if he is the only being on the planet. This aspect of the job really leaves no room for the self. There is no space to explore or identify or evolve any aspect of your own being, because there is no room for you in the equation.
My modern version of prostitution was fun, easy and body-positive—until it wasn’t.
‘Would you like to stay for another dance?” I ask sweetly. He looks me up and down in grim appraisal, makes a miserable face and says,”Not if that was your best effort.” In the same sugary tone I tell him that maybe if he wasn’t so repulsive then girls might want to get a bit […]
http://www.bustle.com/articles/91812-i-had-sex-with-a-sugar-daddy-to-help-pay-my-tuition-and-heres-why-i Stories about women seeking richer, older men to pay their university tuition in exchange for sex are becoming more and more common. From the United States to the U.K., “sugar daddies” and “sugar babies” are becoming a reasonable option for women looking to not only exercise control over their own bodies, but also fund […]
Here in New Zealand, in the legal brothels, we have the same ‘happy hookers’ who claim being ’empowered’ ‘sex workers’ enacting ‘free choice’ and ‘agency’ as is buzzing all over the world. These women are not actually liars, but they aren’t saying what you think they are saying either. Their words have been manipulated by […]
If you like sex, this is not a letter to you. If you like women, this is not a letter to you. If you’ve somehow put these things together and decided they give you the right to buy what you like, this is a letter to you. If you’re a misogynistic bastard who gets off […]
My mom grew up in the middle of the Prairies in the middle of The Great Depression. She was a child of want, on every level imagineable. Her mom and her step-dad drank and fought all the time. Adults, in drunken stupors, had sex right in front of my mom. My mom saw what no […]
The first time I was arrested because of prostitution, on Benburb Street in 1991, I had a conversation with the arresting officer that I have never forgotten. I’d heard one of the older women talk about how we prevented rape, and, sadly, I’d latched onto that as some kind of validation, some kind of evidence […]
For the past fifteen years I have worked side by side with survivors of prostitution and trafficking. Without a doubt, survivors are people whose voices should be heard and whose unique perspectives on their experiences should be respected. It is disheartening to read other contributions to this blog and to discover that pimp-controlled organizations are […]
I’ve heard a few people recently referring to women who work as prostitutes, in pornography and as strippers, as sex workers. This, I have to say absolutely riles me. Why does it? I am sure some people will have not the slightest idea with what could be wrong with the term sex work. Considering that […]
James Baldwin wrote, “The victim who is able to articulate the situation of the victim has ceased to be a victim: she has become a threat.” I had no idea how threatening my voice was until I started to make it heard. None of us trafficking and prostitution survivors did, until we started to write […]
I’ll never forget the evening after the release of my first issue as editor of Feminist Voices. I remember the clothes I wore, the snowy sidewalk, the buildings surrounding me, the dreary winter sunset, the heavy bag over my shoulder as I trudged up the side street after work. I’d finished my shift at People’s […]
As survivors of prostitution, we stand in solidarity with those boycotting Backpage.com for the following reasons. Some women who identify as prostitutes are also pimps which means they are making a living by selling of other women to men. Female pimps who pose as women in prostitution confuse those who are unfamiliar with the reality […]
Trafficking and Prostitution are two areas that are very easy to separate; and they would be, as they are inhabited by two groups of women whose experience is characterised by two different kinds of coercion, two different kinds of force. In one group, trafficked women, we will find the young Eastern European woman who has […]
Well meaning people think most “sex workers activist” organizations/unions speak for women in prostitution. They are mistaken. A shocking number of these “sex worker” organizations were started by women and men who are admitted pimps and madams, or have been convicted of pimping, pandering, or conspiracy to promote prostitution. These people call themselves ‘sex workers’ […]
The Coalition Against Trafficking in Women (CATW) in partnership with Prostitution Research and Education (PRE) and other co-sponsors will hold our second protest in front of the Village Voice building at the New York City office of Village Voice Media Holdings, LLC (VVM), owner of Backpage.com. This protest will bring attention to Backpage’s ongoing facilitation […]
Today I ran through north Minneapolis, the ‘hood. The middle of January, the weather a balmy 45, my heart stocked with joy like a fishery plump with walleye. As I ran I thought what a gift the warm weather had been, what a tremendous lift in my mood it created, how much weather impacts the […]
I recently went to Las Vegas for a business conference. As I walked through the prestigious casino, I quickly felt lustful eyes on me, a feeling that I once felt 20 years ago as a prostitute. I thought to myself, How can I feel this way? I’m dressed up in a conservative manner. I’m educated […]